Water-based lubricant, and nothing else
Oil and silicone do not wash out of a porous material. They stay in it.
Water-based lubricant rinses out of the sleeve completely and leaves nothing behind. Oil-based lubricant, and anything containing silicone, soaks into the surface of a soft elastomer where it cannot be rinsed away, and it keeps working on the material long after the evening is over. The result is a patch that goes tacky, then sticky, then tears.
This is also why a sleeve needs more lubricant than a hand does. The material does not lubricate itself and drags when it is dry, and dragging is what tears it. Two or three times what feels necessary is the normal amount, and it is the cheapest part of owning one.
What to do with it
Buy a bigger bottle than feels reasonable. A sleeve uses several times what a hand does, and running dry is what tears the material, so a 100 or 250 millilitre bottle is the normal unit here rather than a sachet.
Warm the lubricant in your hands, apply it inside the sleeve rather than only on yourself, and top it up halfway through rather than pushing on while it drags.
Which lubricant suits which material is set out under water-based lubricant.
